How to Help Children with Grieving

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How to Help Children with Grieving

With my grandchildren’s great-grandmother passing away this past week, I am concerned about how they will react as time goes on. They attended the viewing and the burial ceremony. Kaitlin, the oldest of the two great-granddaughters placed drawings into the coffin from the two of them for Mom-Mom to take with her to Heaven. The person she saw did not look like her Mom-Mom that she remembered for she had lost too much weight. Perhaps that was a blessing. The casket was then closed before friends and relatives arrived to pay their respect.

I’ve searched for books to help us help Kaitlin and Emily with the questions that may be asked when the realization that they won’t see their great-grandmother again sets in. Here are some that I have found online:

 When Someone Very Special Dies: Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief

A practical format for allowing children to understand
the concept of death and develop coping skills for life.

I Miss You: A First Look At Death

When a close friend or family member dies, it can be difficult for children to express their feelings. This book helps boys and girls understand that death is a natural complement to life, and that grief and a sense of loss are normal feelings for them to have following a loved one’s death.

Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies

An art therapy and activity book for children coping with death. Sensitive exercises address all the questions children may have during this emotional and troubling crisis.

Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs Originally published in 1973, this autobiographical picture book was one of the first to introduce very young children to the concept of death.
 Healing Your Grieving Heart for Teens: 100 Practical Ideas (100 Ideas Series) Each page presents a different idea designed to help teens recognize mourning as a natural process connected with loss, reassuring them that they should not be afraid of deep, sometimes uncontrollable emotions, and showing them how to release grief in healthy, positive ways.  

Since grief is a very personal emotion, so may be your choice of self-help books. Search further for more selections on grieving. 

About the Author:

Jersey Shore Grandmother of 5 great kids, retired special ed high school teacher, married since 1972 to Poppy...loves spoiling the grands, crocheting for whomever I can and charities, reading, crafts, outdoors, blogging...and retirement.


  1. Nona Nita 2008/08/12 at 3:17 am

    I remember reading “Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs” to my children many years ago. Besides “Annie and the Old One” by Miska Miles, it is one of my favorite books on the circle of life and on generations. I believe that developmentally appropriate honesty is always the best way when dealing with children and books can be a great help in explaining an event, like death, that is so hard to explain. Thanks for the suggestions!

  2. Elaine Williams 2008/08/11 at 8:50 pm

    This is a wonderful resource of books. When my three boys lost their dad, my husband, four years ago, they ranged in age from 10 to 19. Their reactions were all different and yet based on the same loss, devastating. Thank you.

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