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2010/06/28

Safety on the Web: Are Your Grandkids Safe?

Safety on the Web

Safety on the Web should be a top priority for parents and grandparents today…everyday. No matter how diligent parents (or grandparents) are in monitoring their children’s interactions online, they cannot be aware 100 percent of the time. It’s just impossible.

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How Kids Can Stay Safe On the Web

My oldest granddaughter will be turning 9 in a few weeks. She has a Facebook account. But, before you shake your head or click your tongue (tsk tsk), let me tell you that her parents have taken every precaution to limit her use…to keep her safe.  K’s Facebook account is totally private and her mom is a “friend” under an unknown (to her friends) account so she can login at any time to check for appropriateness. Only good friends are allowed to be her Facebook friends.  K can only use the computer when her parents are near. She knows to let them know if something unusual occurs.

SafetyWeb.com

I’m recommending to my daughter and son-in-law that they take K’s web safety one step further by signing up for a SafetyWeb.com account. They know there is peer pressure that eventually may influence my granddaughter’s online behavior or she may be bullied online if a “friend” turns on her or a predator may somehow connect with her. It’s never too early to start monitoring a child’s online activities. Do you know 42% of kids surveyed report being bullied online? It begins in school and the social sites enable bullies to continue. I’m sure you’ve heard of the terrible outcomes of children being bullied online.

Once a SafetyWeb account is set up, SafetyWeb monitors online public information connected to each registered child. The program also alerts parents immediately to new accounts or changes to existing accounts. I like this safety site because they also go the next step by continuously updating their blog for the sole purpose of educating parents to the dangers of the web. Because the developers of SafetyWeb.com are experienced in social site development and have worked with law enforcement, they are able to keep ahead of those that may prey on teens and even those younger jeopardizing their safety on the web.

Grandparents Can Help with Web Safety, Too!

If your grandchild’s parents are agreeable, you as the grandparent can open an account and monitor your grandchild’s online activities for safety’s sake. It’s good to know there are safety sites on the web to help us keep our grandchildren safe.

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2010/04/15

Ask Nana: How Do I Get My Kids to Pick Up Their Things?

Getting kids to pick up their toys and clothes without a battle has been an ongoing challenge for parents throughout time.  I know it was in our home…times three! I’ve been asked many times for how to approach this topic with minimal conflict.  To offer the best parenting advice, I’ve reached out to Emma Jenner, child development, sleep and behavior specialist who is the founder of Emma’s Children (www.Emmaschildren.com).  Read on to learn Emma Jenner’s positive parenting tips on…

How to Get Kids to Pick Up After Themselves Without a Battle

Tired of your child’s toys cluttering up every space possible, not to mention the battle that follows your simple request, “please put away your toys”?

Kids will be kids, but it’s our job to teach them to clean up after themselves and yes, it is possible. Now, like with all things kid related the famous word ‘consistency’ plays a huge roll. You must be consistent.

Here are some positive parenting tips:

  • Encourage your child to take out one thing at a time. They should put away whatever they were playing with before they are allowed to take something new out.
  • Give your child age appropriate responsibilities. They will be less likely to make a huge mess if they are the ones responsible to clean it all up again. Remember, if your child is capable of taking a toy out they are perfectly capable of putting it away.
  • Teach them to look after their toys, if they are all over the place they may get lost or even broken and then they wont be able to play with them at all.
  • Make it fun and not so much of a chore. Make up games (set a timer) or sing songs. This is a really fun way to encourage your child to tidy up. One of my favorite clean up songs is “clean up clean up everybody everywhere, clean up clean up everybody do your share”.
  • Give everything a home and have separate containers for cars, dolls, Lego, characters etc. and clearly label them. Not only does this make it more fun but also educational.
  • Have your child tidy up at the end of each day and at the end of a play date, all children should help.

Now having said all this, your children need you to establish the rules and be consistent. If you let your child off the hook one day, then please note they will expect it all the time and the battle will remain.

Happy cleaning, children!

Do you have a question on parenting, grandparenting, raising healthy kids, combating childhood obesity, etc? Ask Nana and I’ll get an expert to answer your question.

2010/03/14

Tips on Managing Media in Children’s Lives

How many forms of media are your children experiencing each day? How many electronic gadgets do your children use that allow your them easy access to outside influences? Have you taken an inventory lately?

Kids and Media Consumption

With the recent data from the Kaiser Family Foundation, which showed that kids 8-18 years old are kidsparentstechconsuming an average of over 7 hours of media a day, and the launch of the iPad, youth media consumption is an extremely relevant topic and it is more important that ever that parents take an active role in how much media their children are consuming.

“Younger and younger children are now in charge of how they consume media, and they are mostly consuming junk,” explains Dr. Eitan Schwarz, MD DLFAPA FAACAP, author of Kids, Parents, and Technology: An Instruction Manual for Young Families and Child Psychiatrist. “Excessive consumption can cause emotional difficulties, as well as result from existing ones. Children need the thoughtful, active and positive guidance of their parents in this amazing Wild-West tech environment. Merely restricting access is just not enough.”

Managing Children’s Media Use

Dr. Schwarz offers the following tips for parents of infants through eight-year-olds worried about their children’s current and future uses of these technologies:

  • Take Charge – Have confidence and take charge. You can manage this important area of your kids’ lives. Many parents too readily take a back seat and let kids take the lead. In what other important area of life would they let that happen?
  • Media are Appliances – Start thinking of media as family appliances that must have positive values. Kids treat media as toys, but they are in fact adult tools with enormous power. Would you let your unsupervised young child use the telephone or oven? Only devices with proven benefits belong in children’s hands.
  • Technology is Healthy – From infancy onwards, teach kids to appreciate technology as a healthy and routine part of family life. Starting young, children will learn that using technology is collaborative and social — and not an isolating solitary activity.
  • Include the Whole Family – Create a new environment around the online family computer and other media to promote mutuality, fun, respect, and development for the entire family. Moving the home computer away from the wall and arranging seating all around it will make it a popular center for family life.
  • Make Media a Positive Learning Tool – Just as you already shop for healthy food, harvest the positive opportunities offered by media. For example, for every age group there are wonderful Internet sites that offer a world of learning entertainment experiences.
  • Create Healthy Media Rules – Tailor healthy media diets into daily menus for each child to provide development opportunities. For example, regularly require enough online time on sites that enhance good values and education enrichment.

About Dr. Eitan Schwarz

Eitan D. Schwarz, MD FAACA DLFAPA is a doctor who knows kids, media, and families. He is board-certified in both general and child and adolescent psychiatry. During his nearly 40 years of distinguished practice and teaching in a variety of public, private, and academic settings, Dr. Schwarz has been steadily learning about the needs of children and families. Since medical school at Johns Hopkins, he has also been studying the uses of technology in health care and the practice of medicine. Currently on the faculty of Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine, he has recently researched the use of digital media in play therapy with children.

Click here to view and purchase Dr. Schwarz’ book Kids, Parents, and Technology: An Instruction Manual for Young Families

 

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